Entries by Ms. Ava

Check Your Spelling

This new long-distance chastity trainee made a great first impression by proactively sending me this pic of his Jailbird device (after asking permission, of course). My pleasure was tempered, though, when I noticed he misspelled my last name. Tsk, R. We’ll be discussing attention to detail in a future call.

Tea with the Ladies

I recently attended the “Are You Being Served?” tea party celebrating the 10th anniversary of Club Fem Southeast Florida—a social organization for female lifestyle dominants. My involvement with Club Fem has been a rich source of connection with other strong, intelligent, kinky women. Its outgoing headmistress, Lady Q, is a cherished mentor and was an […]

Happy Holidays

I end this year filled with gratitude for the amazing people and experiences made possible through the Parlor and the Blue Belles. Thank you for your continuing loyalty, trust, and goodwill.  Best wishes to you all for a happy holiday season and a 2019 filled with ever-increasing beauty, authenticity, and freedom—inside and out.   Love,  Ms. […]

Panty Show and Sugar Cookies

One of my favorite appointments this year was with  Janna, a brand-new client who traveled 2 hours to see me the week before my birthday.  She modeled her extensive collection of  satin panties  and lingerie for me before baking a batch of cookies en femme—then we had warm cookies and milk while doing a jigsaw […]

I Left My Marks in San Francisco

Most of you know me as a developmental, protective, sensual Domme. Control through  guidance and inspiration, not humiliation, is my natural default in daily work and life. What you may not know is that there’s a hidden leather bitch who comes out to play on rare occasions, aroused by certain people and circumstances. The most […]

Kink Talk with Ms. Ava on SLS Radio

As a  recent guest on SLS (Swing Lifestyle) Radio, I had a blast sipping wine and chatting live with DJ Rick and his wife Brenda about some of my favorite things: crossdressing, kink, dominance, strap-ons, prostates, pain vs. sensation,  chastity, orgasm control, and more. Want to hear my voice, learn a few things, and bear […]

The Silence of the Diva

Darlings, please understand something… I don’t make regular blog and social media posts. That doesn’t mean I’m idle. I consciously try to savor my life and work, immersing myself in the  moment. My thoughts rarely turn toward documenting my experiences and thoughts for the  masses. Once the moment has passed and I’ve relished its juicy […]

Chastity Is About Harnessing the Knight

My attitude and approach toward female-led relationships (FLR) and dominance in my personal life is sometimes hard for men to understand when all they’ve seen (thank you, porn sites) is the more aggressive and demeaning variety. Just sharing this tidbit from a recent online conversation: Him: I can see how breaking down an alpha male […]